I am an author in both memoir and spiritually based self-help.
My current book project, It’s Not About You: How to Stop Taking Things Personally by Taking Personal Responsibility, is a hybrid, blending memoir and self-help. It’s the book I pitched at the first writing conference I attended (about fifteen years ago), and where I was invited to send material to a well-respected publisher. For various reasons, I put the project away and switched my efforts to completing my memoir, Glowing Houses, (which I have done).
In It’s Not About You, I share stories about how taking things personally has affected my life in negative ways and where I offer solutions to others who have similar tendencies. This is a Universal problem with which all we humans struggle. Seeing how prolific this behavior is inspired me to write about it.
It is in inevitable, you know, that you will take something personally. If you put yourself out there—which you must!—you will encounter difficult relationships, situations and events. These are important opportunities to find out why you are taking “it” personally: your triggers. (I share about some of my triggers and their “whys” on the blog page)
We can’t control how someone treats us (or not), but we can control our reaction or response. Finding the “it” is part of what I tackle in the book. Once you understand your trigger, it loses power over you.
My mantra is: It’s not ABOUT me. It’s all ON me.
In order to make the above mantra stick, you need a plan, a strategy, a roadmap. My book is your roadmap.